We all want the ideal love relationship a partnership to build a future on but making a relationship work can be difficult. Relationships can be a minefield of unmet needs, unspoken demands, and unresolved issues from the past that manifest in arguments, stalemates, hostility, distance, blame, resentment and paradoxically, a sense of isolation. This is because so much happens unconsciously!
Bringing the underlying issues out into awareness can help turn your minefield into more of a meadow. Yes, life will still present issues, but with awareness and understanding of the dynamics operating you can use challenges to grow and move forwards.
Bringing the underlying issues out into awareness can help turn your minefield into more of a meadow. Yes, life will still present issues, but with awareness and understanding of the dynamics operating you can use challenges to grow and move forwards.
Psychobiological Couples Counselling
The Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT) is based in recent research on neuroscience and attachment theory and it could be the very thing you and your partner have been looking for.
As you learn about your partner's and your own attachment and arousal regulation styles, it's like being handed an 'owner's manual' for each other. You are better able to understand and care for each other, and many couples who've been through this therapy see a big improvement in their relationship.
Read more about this cutting edge new way of relationship therapy here.
https://www.thepactinstitute.com
As you learn about your partner's and your own attachment and arousal regulation styles, it's like being handed an 'owner's manual' for each other. You are better able to understand and care for each other, and many couples who've been through this therapy see a big improvement in their relationship.
Read more about this cutting edge new way of relationship therapy here.
https://www.thepactinstitute.com
Relationship Problems and Parenting a Young Baby
Relationship problems can arise when a new baby comes along due to the transition from being a couple to a trio. It's a fertile time for arguments over housework and sex as well as problems with in-laws. The post-baby period, especially between 6 weeks to 4 months, is a time where many arguments can happen between couples. Sometimes things pass and others times this can be a sign of something more significant going on. Read more here.
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Sex therapy
People have very different ideas and expectations regarding sex and verbalising them can be difficult. It is not the aim of sex therapy to make you feel guilty, weird, uncomfortable or to have you confess your wildest fantasies. It's about increasing intimacy in a way that is meaningful to the couple according to their age, stage and values. Moreover, it is important for you to know that some form of 'sexual difficulties' happen to nearly all couples at some point, and it is okay to discuss it. While it might feel embarrassing to talk about sex, it's worse to let the problem continue to erode your relationship. Many problems are temporary and can be resolved within couples counselling. Read more here.
Conscious relationships
A conscious relationship is where two people agree to be in a bond that is not just about falling in love, meeting each others needs and repeating the patterns of their past, but to rising in love, growing together and opening to new possibilities for open and honest communication without judgement or blame. Rather than reacting from dependancy needs, conscious couples see relationships as a vehicle for conscious or spiritual awakening through doing the work of getting to truly understand each other and meeting each challenge with awareness and acceptance.
Relationships help us see ourselves, how we react, recognise unfinished issues, and also provide support and holding as we move into new territory. Conscious couples are committed to improving each others lives by not making the relationship a place of being stuck in conflict and unspoken demands. This doesn't negate commitment in the traditional sense, it simply means that each partner is committed to making what is unconscious in the self and other more conscious, for the purpose of growth and happiness.
Relationships help us see ourselves, how we react, recognise unfinished issues, and also provide support and holding as we move into new territory. Conscious couples are committed to improving each others lives by not making the relationship a place of being stuck in conflict and unspoken demands. This doesn't negate commitment in the traditional sense, it simply means that each partner is committed to making what is unconscious in the self and other more conscious, for the purpose of growth and happiness.
More on Relationships
Solo relationship therapyYou can still come and work on yourself even if your partner is not ready. More.
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Getting the most from couples counsellingDon't use your therapist as a referee! Read this article on how to maximise your relationship therapy sessions.
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Communication ProblemsThe most common complaint in relationship therapy. Read more.
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